FATWASQ. According to the Hadith, children should be induced to perform Salaat from the age of seven years. How do we introduce them to Salaat. Should we tell them to perform one Namaaz daily and gradually increase till they perform all five by 10 years?
A. A child in a Muslim home – in a home where parents perform Salaat punctually and regularly – is introduced to Salaat long before – years before he/she reaches seven years. When children are six years of age they are sent to secular school. How do you introduce them to this cold life outside the home where they are alienated from parental love and Deeni tarbiyat? Do you ‘gradually’ get them accustomed to leave home at 7 in the morning whether it is cold or hot or raining? Do they attend and absent themselves from secular school at whim and fancy and gradually get into the rut of regular school attendance? Six year old boys and girls are sent to secular school – many of them crying. They are rudely plucked out from their homes of affection and warmth and forcibly sent into cold schools into morally hostile and spiritually destructive environments where they are drilled in fisq and fujoor, and alienated from their parents. Parents, aiding in the moral and spiritual ruin of their six year old children, ensure that the kids settle immediately into the new rut which kufr society has ordained for them. The question of ‘gradually’ getting them accustomed to school and remaining in the secular prisons for six hours or more every day, does not develop in the minds of parents. They unquestionably submit to the commands and indoctrination of secularism.
But when Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) ordered that the child be introduced to Salaat at the age of seven years, there develops a conundrum which shaitaan portrays as being insoluble. A variety of ‘rational’ arguments is presented to prevent the child from performing the 5 daily Salaat regularly and punctually. All of this rationalism is satanism. In the Muslim home, the three year old child of its own accord imitates his/her parents and playfully executes the postures of Salaat . By the time the Muslim child is five or six years old, he/she performs Salaat with reasonable aptitude. By the age of seven the child is a regular performer of the five daily Salaat . The question of introducing the child to Salaat , and that too once a day, at the age of seven does not arise at all. By the age of seven your school-going child dressed kufr-smartly in uniform and carrying ‘academic’ text books MUST be in the habit of performing the five daily Salaat. There is no excuse for any shortcoming in this regard. The moment the child returns home, it is the Waajib duty of the parents to ensure that the child first performs Zuhr Salaat , then do whatever has to be done. When the mother performs Salaat, she must ensure that her children are with her. Alternatively, after she has completed her Salaat , then more important than engagement in other household activity, is that she supervises her children’s Salaat . She should instruct them to perform Salaat and keep them under observation for the duration of the Salaat, all the time correcting their errors. The age of ten years is the dangerous limit. If by this age the child does not voluntarily perform Salaat five times a day of his/her own accord, then he/she is under shaitaan’s spell, hence Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) ordered beating to break the satanic spell.
Q. I am teaching my 7 year old daughter to wear niqaab and proper Islamic dress, but my husband opposes me. He does not want our daughter to wear a veil at this age. He says that I am too strict. Who is right?
Q. From what age should a girl observe hijaab and wear niqaab?
Q. What does Islam say regarding sending our young children into the hands of strangers for the whole day for ‘schooling’?
Some mothers again, dump their infants in a nursery school while they are off to participate in unjustified worldly activities. Every reason presented in justification of assigning children to the care of others, is rejected by Islam. The trust (amaanat) of children is given by Allah Ta’ala to parents, not to maids or nursery establishments which are systems of the kuffaar. It is indeed a grave crime for parents to abandon their amaanat and assign their children into such custody which is viewed by Islam as being unauthorized.
It is imperative for a Muslim baby to grow up in the lap and bosom of its mother, not in the custody of people devoid of Islamic morals and enveloped in spiritual najasat (kufr) and physical najasat (hadth, janabat, etc.) The place of the growing Muslim child is in its parent’s home under the watchful and affectionate eyes of its mother. Its place is not in some nursery school or crèche functioning along a hybrid kaafir/Muslim system. It is the obligatory (wajib) duty of a Muslim woman to take personal charge of her children and relentlessly and patiently lead and guide them along the lofty paths of morality and knowledge the shariah has ordained for all Muslims.
It is also a great pity that women of today always express ingratitude for the favors bestowed on them by their husbands. Their complaints with regard to money for the acquisition of luxuries are never-ending. The income of the husband is never enough. His wealth is squandered in unnecessary avenues and to acquire items which he cannot afford. The wife’s nagging and hankering after dispensable luxuries induce a weak husband to fall into the snare of credit and even riba (interest) to satisfy her insatiable demands. But, Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam described the pious woman as a woman who guards her husband’s wealth. Women of Islam should be diligent in this respect.
Greed and impatience disrupt the happy home relationship and the barkat which should always be in a Muslim home disappears. Once Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam saw a woman with two children. She was carrying one in her arms and holding the other by his hand. On observing this tender scene, Nabi sallallahu alaihi was sallam commented:
“These women firstly bear (in travail) these children within their wombs; then they give birth (in travail) to them; then they care for them with great love and affection. If their relationship with their husbands is not bad, then, those among them who perform regular salaat will certainly enter Jannat”.
Loving care for children, faithful and loving service to the husband and steadfastness in the obligatory acts of ibaadat are the essential requisites for the qualification of ‘Al-mar’atus salihah’.
Q. There is a type of nursery school called Montessori. Many such schools have opened in Durban and Muslims are sending their children to these schools. Amongst the methods of this school are: 1. The teaching is co-ed style. 2. Children are taught to make Valentine, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day cards. 3. Concerts with mixed gatherings are organized 4. Music and dancing children. 5. The whole system inculcates independence in the children, i.e. independence from parents and elders. 6. They have jungle gyms. Please comment.
Countless millions of Muslim children are subtly and cunningly being weaned away from the Deen by the forces of kufr which are aided and sustained by Muslims. The wonderful Amaanat of children is cast into the cauldron of kufr and the path to Jahannum is paved for the children by their own parents. The evils are too glaring and need no elaboration. Muslim parents are casting a deliberate blind eye in this direction of moral and spiritual destruction. In the name of education parents are employing self-deception to shake off the responsibility of guarding the Imaan of their children and attending to their Deeni ta’leem and tarbiyat.
They soothe their conscience with the blatantly false idea that they are daily dropping off their children at an educational institution while the reality belies them. If they reflect, they will not fail to discern that they are casting their children into Hell-Fire. May Allah Ta’ala open up the clogged spiritual arteries of Muslims who barter away the Imaan and Akhlaaq of their children and take in exchange kufr and immorality.
Q. Should girls from Deen-conscious homes where due attention is given to Purdah, be sent to a girl’s Madrasah?
Nowadays, the sprouting up of girls madrasahs has exercised a negative and a detrimental effect on the character and thinking of those girls who happen to be from Purdah Nasheen and Deeni homes. Their vital years which should be spent in the constant company and under the watchful eyes of their mothers are being squandered in the unnecessary and defective pursuit of higher academic knowledge which anyhow, almost all girls are unable to achieve correctly.
Instead of them being preoccupied with the home role – the role of mother and wife which Allah Ta’ala has created for them, they are assigned to unnatural institutions which transform them into rigid and frigid robots. In fact, they emerge from these madrasahs barely understanding their future role in life. What is written in the kitaabs, either remains there or has vanished through the other ear. Hardly does the kitaabi knowledge penetrate the heart. This is more so in these times when institutions and the teachers are bereft of Taqwa and Suhbat of Saaliheen.
The girls manage to remember only what their huqooq (rights) are when they will be getting married. But how to manage a home, cope with the husband, in-laws, etc. is foreign to them. They remain blissfully ignorant of practical house and husband care. These responsibilities cannever be imparted to them by the madrasah whose teachers in most cases are young Aalims, wholly inexperienced and lacking in wisdom and piety.
The responsibilities of the home and the way in which to lead a lifetime with a husband can be acquired only under the tution and supervision of the mother in the home environment, not in a cold, inexperienced institution which has no truck with the home which Allah Ta’ala has made the practical madrasah for girls. As a result of the negative effect of girls madrasahs, it is observed that the girls from these institutions are impersonal, lacking in understanding, unscrupulous towards their in-laws, domineering towards their husbands and demanding of their rights even if it leads to the breakdown of the marriage.
They are adept at citing the Akaabireem Ulama when demanding their huqooq, but entirely ignorant about the advices of these selfsame Akaabireen who have emphasized tolerance and patience to the degree where they (wives) should abandon their huqooq in the interest of the happiness of their home. While the Shariat commands husbands to observe the rights of their wives and warns of severe punishment for violation of the huqooq, it also emphasises that wives exercise restraint and display great tolerance. In fact, the Shariah commands them to patiently accept the injustices of their husbands and not to embark on any way which will lead to the breakdown of the marriage.
Usually the very first and immediate demand of girls who acquired their akhlaaq from a madrasah (not from their homes) is immediate separation from the mother-in-law and father-in-law. They are brutally insensitive to the relationship which their husbands have and had since birth with their parents. These insensitive and zaalim (cruel) madrasah girls adamantly demand and expect their husbands to provide an entirely separate house for them and to practically sever their relationship with their parents.
These girls should understand well that they come within the purview of Allah’s Ia’nat for the wedge which they create between their husbands and parents. Marriage does not mean termination of parental relationship. When a boy marries it does not mean that he has to abandon his parents and become aloof from them at the behest of his demanding wife. In fact, his parents have greater huqooq on him than his wife. While his wife has priority in some rights and affairs, her husband still remains the little child to his parents that he was the day he was born.
Intolerance is a salient part of the character of madrasah girls. Their intolerance is justified baselessly by their presentation of the argument of their ‘huqooq’. It appears that their huqooq is the only item of ‘ilm’ which they remember when they leave the Madrasah. The whole of Nabi-e-Kareem’s Uswah-e-Hasanah which they were supposed to have been taught is either forgotten or not explained to them properly. Demanding one’s rights in the way in which these cold Madrasah girls do is not part of Uswah-e-Hasanah of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). Rather the opposite is part of the Sunnah, viz., that wives tolerate the injustices of their husband and in-laws and supplicate to Allah Ta’ala for a better change.
Parents should have mercy on their daughters and be more concerned of their future lives. Thy should not seek to reduce their duties by assigning their Purdah Nasheen daughters to cold, impersonal instutions which Islam has never encouraged for females. Mothers should teach their daughters their natural roles in the warmth of the home. It is indeed ludicrous to believe that what the mother refuses to teach her daughter, the inexperienced male teacher in an unnatural institution can teach her by making her read some theory. Allah Ta’ala has commanded firstly the mother, then the father to teach and train their daughter. This command is not directed to a ghair mahram teacher generally bereft of wisdom and taqwa. A girl cannever be moulded into the role Allah Ta’ala has determined for her, by a ghair mahram young Maulana who himself is blissfully ignorant of this role. May Allah Ta’ala bestow good hidaayat to parents to understand the ruin they are causing to their Purdah Nasheen daughters by sending them to institutions, which do not form part of our Islamic heritage.
Q. Will parents be held responsible for the countless children who are losing their hayaa, morality, and even their Imaan at these secular institutions?
The imagined imperative need to send children to such secular institutions which not only erode and ruin Islamic moral character, but which even destroy Imaan, has driven Muslim children to the brink of Jahannaum. In the process of Imaani and Akhlaaqi ruin of children, parents are in the forefront. They will be held primarily responsible by Allah Ta’ala for the ruin of their children. The fruits of such ruin will be presented to parents right here in this worldly life when they will witness with their own eyes the evil pathways of immorality and kufr their children adopt. Parents who send their sons and daughters to evil and immoral secular institutions which nowadays excel in ‘intellectual’ pornography dubbed ‘sex-education’, have no right to lament, cry and regret when they find their teenage daughter or son having struck up an illicit relationship with a non-Muslim co-student. Parents have no valid grounds for being surprised and lamenting when they discover their child being addicted to drugs.
Evil and immorality are the natural, logical and necessary consequences of associating and mingling with morally impure and corrupt elements. The natural effect of pursuing secular education at immoral institutions is erosion of Imaan and total ruin of Akhlaaq. It is for this very reason and evil consequences that Hakimul Ummat Hadhrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thaanvi (rahmatullah alayh) said: “It is millions of times better to be a sweeper in a Musjid than to pursue English (secular) education.”
The criticism and aversion are not directed at secular education. The attack is against the immoral schools and universities. The abhorrence is for the evil and immoral consequences which come in the wake of the liberalism of westernism which pervades all the secular schools, colleges and universities of the age. Hence, if secular education has to be pursued at the cost of the ruin of Imaan and Akhlaaq, then it is Waajib to remain ignorant of such ‘sciences’ and rather cut grass and sweep the streets for a livelihood.
The purpose of life on earth is success and salvation in the Aakhirah, not worldly perfection and comfort. Parents should understand the path they have adopted in relation to their children. The sins of children will hem in their parents who will stand first in line for Divine Punishment while the children will follow suit.
Q. I am a 21 year-old daughter of well-to-do and respectable parents. Although our family is considered to be religious, my parents have strong leanings towards westernism and modernism. The proof of this is my presence in a co-ed non-Muslim varsity pursuing a medical career. From the age of six, I was thrust into the lap of secular non-Muslim schools. The afternoon one hour madrasa class was, in retrospect, a symbolic adherence to Islam. But the seeds of the Deen which were implanted in my heart by the old fashioned mullah, had sustained the safety of my Imaan which otherwise could not have withstood the sustained ravages of the assault of 15 years of indoctrination by the materialists and atheists—my school and colleges tutors, and the buffetings of the depraved culture of the west which we are indoctrinated to accept as the code of enlightenment for the world. (Question continued…)
For 15 years I was exposed to a culture which stands diametrically opposed to Islam. Here I want to touch on only one aspect since the dilemma I am facing now has its origin in this aspect—free mixing with the opposite sex. The degree of this mixing with its natural immoral consequences cannot be denied by anyone who is aware of what takes place at college and varsity. From the Islamic perspective the evil and vice are total. No one can emerge unscathed from the cauldron of vice which characterizes high school and university life.
Circumstances of the western culture induced me to freely mingle with males. My father too is a professional man who went through college life, and he is well aware of what transpires at these secular institutions. For the sake of a secular career which promises security in the mundane world, and a high status, my parents, like all other Muslim parents whose sons and daughters attend university, cast an intentional blind eye to the rape of the modesty and moral purity their children suffer at these institutions.
The seeds of Islam which my mullah teacher many years ago planted in my mind led me to read Islamic books. This ‘unnatural’ inclination for reading Islamic literature in the merciless environment in which I was entrapped, I attribute to only my Islamic teacher. I must thank Allah Ta’ala for the good fortune of even those symbolic one hour classes. It can be only those seeds which grew into a tree with the root of Imaan reaching deep into the heart . I attribute the safety of my Imaan to only this, and nothing else. My reading broadened my Islamic vision and I came to understand my religion better.
The total freedom of association with the opposite sex, being in constant contact with them even in privacy took its toll. There is no inhibition to communication with the opposite sex at college. In fact, such contact is encouraged and actively fostered. Abstention from such indulgence is believed to be an aberration. It is extremely naVve and unreasonable to believe that my parents were unaware of this situation to which their daughter was being exposed from the day they had her enrolled in primary school. My contact with boys was initiated at their behest from the very first day of enrolment 15 years ago.
Friendship with boys increased as the years went by. From what I have read in my Islamic books, such relationship is a kind of fornication. Nevertheless I continued with such relationships with a variety of males. But deep in my heart I knew the error and sin of such illicit contact. About two years ago a ‘friendly’ relationship developed between a non-Muslim male at university and myself. The relationship became a serious one. The boy is of good natural habits and comes from a cultured home. His relationship with me led to him accepting Islam. He started studying the books I gave him and as far as I could see, he has become a practical Muslim in the context of the liberal environment of university life. Soon the subject of marriage was broached.
I raised the topic of marriage with my mother whose reaction was very hostile. When she discussed the matter with my father, his reaction was explosive. He was livid with anger. Not over his dead body would he allow me to marry the boy. I was and still am dumbfounded by their reaction. For 15 years they accepted and tolerated their daughter’s association with all types of boys— Muslims and non-Muslims—with boys whom they are not aware of. But their awareness of inter-sex relationships and contact is undeniable. They had tolerated the Islamically unlawful or illicit relationships for more than a decade, not breathing a word of reprimand, caution or advice against the pitfalls of such un-Islamic contact. But, when I attempted to correct the wrong with lawful Nikah, it seemed as if it was the end of the world for my parents. I simply cannot fathom this kind of thinking.
Fifteen years of ‘freedom’, exposed to the onslaught of western culture in liberal secular institutions have engendered in me sufficient ‘audacity’ to oppose my parents’ wishes. After all, I reckoned that I will be doing good, what is right and to please Allah if I terminate the illicit relationship with the holy bond of Nikah. We got married by Nikah without the approval of my parents. Have I erred in my decision and the step I took? My father has since disowned me. I am not allowed to visit my parents and he says that he will see that I do not inherit anything in his estate. As far as inheritance, it does not worry me. I have realized that Allah Ta’ala is our only Provider. My eyes are not on the wealth of my parents. What is however hurtful is the severance of ties. I am not allowed to even see my mother. Are my father’s actions within the parameters of the teachings of Islam? Both of us—my husband and I—have discontinued our study careers, and we do not regret one moment. Your comments will be appreciated.
We stand in ovation for the correct Islamic course you have adopted to rectify the immorality in which you had plunged yourself all these years with the active connivance, encouragement and aid of your misguided parents. The ‘disownment’ announced by your father besides being Islamically baseless, having no validity and no effect whatsoever, is old hat. He had ‘disowned’ you years—many years ago. The day he abandoned you into the care of kuffaar tutors, when you were six years old, that was the day when he had disowned you. on that fateful day did he initiate your journey to Jahannum. It is purely by the fadhl and karam of Allah Azza Wa Jal, that you were saved from total destruction right at the brink of the abyss of kufr and immorality. Allah Ta’ala in His infinite mercy saved you from going over the precipice.
Your decision to legalize your haraam relationship with Nikah was 100% correct. Your father could condone your zina relationships which you had conducted for more than a decade with his full knowledge. But Nikah was a great calamity for him. This is the standard reaction of such Muslim parents who entertain false ideas of their ’holiness’ and ’greatness’ in society. They have absolutely no care if their sons and daughters take the Path to Jahannum and everlasting perdition in the Aakhirah, as long as their (the parents’) false sense of worldly honour and pride is sustained. The warped mentality of condoning years of immorality and zina while despising Nikah, the act of correcting the aberration of immorality is shocking and betrays signs of kufr lurking in the hearts. We fail to comprehend the criteria which led you to believe that your parents are religious.
Parents who have cast their children, especially daughters, to the winds and wolves of immorality have no right to lament when their offspring either take the path of prostitution or Nikah in conflict with their wishes and without their knowledge and consent. When parents assign their daughters or even sons to the dens of zina called universities, they automatically relinquish control over them. The son or daughter then has the right to correct his/her illicit relationship by entering into the bond of Nikah even without parental consent. If they can condone and live with the zina which their daughter commits for years, then they can to a greater degree learn to live with the Nikah of their daughter. Their talk of ‘disowning’ their children and disinheriting them is palpable nonsense and injustice. Such ‘disownment’ has no validity in the Shariah. The daughter will just inherit her share in the wealth which Allah Ta’ala has given as an amaanat (trust) in the custody of the father. If he utilizes kuffaar laws to deprive her of her rightful inheritance, he should then be prepared to be enclosed in a steel coffin and flung into Jahannum on the Day of Qiyaamah.
Q. My seven year old child is extremely stubborn and disobedient. Our efforts to reform him have failed. Please give us some advice.
A. Although not always, but generally, the cause of the disobedience of children is the disobedience of parents. When parents are disobedient to Allah Ta’ala and they transgress the Shariah wantonly, the consequence is the disobedience of their children. Parents should reform themselves, become obedient to Allah Ta’ala and follow the Sunnah. Insha’Allah, their children too will become obedient.
Q. I want my child to be a Daaee (one who calls to the Path of the Deen) by the age of 13, and he should command his friends to do good. How could this goal be achieved?
A. This goal is not in your power. The Qur’aan Majeed says: “What, does insaan
think that he will attain whatever he wishes for?” Don’t set yourself any targets. Such hopes lead to frustration and despondency when they do not materialize. Attend to the child’s ta’leem and tarbiyat (moral training), keep him away from ‘friends’, make constant duaa for the child’s guidance and leave the end result to Allah Ta’ala. Our efforts will not bear fruit if Allah Ta’ala has another plan. Discharge your parental duties. This is sufficient. Allah chooses whomever He wills for service to His Deen.
Q. Is it appropriate for women to give birth at the hospitals where there is no regard for Hayaa?
In this modern era of loose morals most women displease Allah Ta’ala by shamelessly violating Islam’s Hijab (Purdah) rules on the occasion of childbirth. The age-old, respectable and Islamic system of childbirth taking place in the privacy of the home has been largely abandoned. Most women in the western countries opt for giving birth to their children in hospitals where they are attended to by male physicians. They are required to undergo un-Islamic, shameless and haraam medical tests and check-ups. They have to shamelessly expose themselves to male doctors. In this evil process they invoke the Wrath of Allah Ta’ala.
Western indoctrination has blinded the intelligence of many Muslims. It is believed that giving birth in hospitals and supervision by male physicians are necessary. But this is a shaitaani myth peddled by the kuffaar medical establishment. Countless millions of women in ‘Third World’ countries and many deeni conscious Muslims in western countries as well as numerous non-Muslim women who still have natural modesty in them give birth at home attended by female midwives.
Giving birth in hospitals and attended by male physicians are among the most shameless and immoral misdeeds which violently militate against the Islamic code of modesty and Hijaab. Muslim women must revolt against this vile practice. Their childbirth is short of blessings (barkat) by their submission to the immoral and haraam practices of the kuffaar medical establishment. Muslims should rid themselves of the plague of western kuffaar notions and theories spawned by minds smitten with kufr and haraam. A natural propensity of kufr is inclination towards haraam impurity and immodesty. We, therefore, find that despite there being millions of lawful and pure things in Allah’s creation, the kuffaar medical establishment loves to explore and experiment with haraam and najaasat. Of course, there are no restrictions of modesty or immodesty in minds which do not accept the Divine Code.
It is not permissible for Muslim women to adopt this nude and vulgar system of childbirth, the supposed virtues of which are propagated and extolled by western medical science. While there are always exceptions under grave circumstances which must be confirmed by a pious, Deeni conscious Muslim physician, Muslim women should understand well that it is haraam to give birth in hospitals under the present immodest, immoral and haraam conditions which require total exposure of the female and attendance by male physicians.
The virtues and merits of childbirth are obtainable at home, in Islamic, respectable and modest conditions. At home, there will be greater barkat (blessings) in the childbirth, in the offspring and generally in the home. A woman, returning from hospital, returns after having submitted to a shameless, immodest and haraam system of childbirth. She does not come home with Islamic honor nor is she blessed with the aura of noor which diffuses the person of a woman who measures up to the designation – ‘al-mar’atus salihah’.
The pious woman will take courage and feel honored by the following statements of Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam: “A woman who dies during childbirth obtains the rank of a Shaheed (martyr).” and, “A woman who exercises Sabr when her child dies, will enter Jannat immediately.” Even the partly-formed child in a miscarriage will take its mother to Jannat. (Miscarriage too, is a blessing for a Muslim woman. Difficulties and calamities should not, therefore, lead to impatience, frustration and ingratitude.)
Another evil and immodest practice which has reared its ugly head even among Muslims is the western custom of the husband viewing his wife giving birth. The western medical establishment, being a forerunner in immodesty and haraam, is advocating the virtues of this un-Islamic practice. But Islam does not accept such shamelessness. It is not permissible for Muslim husbands to degrade themselves by submitting to the immoral and lewd practices of the west.
Q. Is the breast-feeding period 24 Islamic or solar months?
Q. Please comment on those women who stop breast-feeding their children earlier than they should.
A. On the Night of Mi’raaj while touring the heavens, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was shown a fearsome scene in Jahannum. Serpents were repeatedly biting the breasts of a group of women. When he enquired about this episode, he was informed that they were women who had abstained from breast-feeding their infants. Women whose brains have been contaminated with western kuffaar ideas of ‘beauty’ and ‘shape’, ape their kuffaar counterparts. They deny their babies the nourishment which Allah Ta’ala has created for them. Instead of breast-feeding their babies, they administer a variety of harmful substances called ‘baby food’ to their infants. They rob and ruin the health of their babies with their selfish attitudes acquired from the immoral western cult. Such women are not mothers. There is terrible punishment in store for them.
Q. If an infant is fed a woman’s milk with a bottle after the milk was extracted, will the effect be the same as if the infant is suckled by the woman
A. Yes, the effect is the same. During the period of breast-feeding the law of Hurmat-e-Radhaa-at comes into effect regardless of the method the baby is fed the milk. Whether the baby drinks directly from the breast of a woman or her milk is extracted and fed to the baby by means of a bottle or any other means, milk ties are established.
Q. How should the ceremony for naming a child be conducted?
A. In Islam there is no such thing as a naming ceremony. The baby is simply called by a name from the seventh day. All customs and ceremonies connected to naming the child are bid’ah and not permissible.
Q. A female doctor claims that it is permissible to breast-feed a baby for longer than 24 months – for as long as one wishes. Please comment.
A. This woman doctor is simply one of those dumb, moron, satanically misguided elements of the kuffaar women’s lib.movement. She is like the dumb moron female who has set herself up as a ‘mujtahid’ to champion the command of her Saudi handlers regarding the issue of women attending the Musaajid. Such women are among the snares of shaitaan. The female doctor who makes the preposterous claim regarding breast-feeding is clearly ignorant in the extreme. No amount of reasoning will benefit such a jaahilah. The Qur’aan, the Sunnah and the practice of the Ummah from the beginning of Islam has been on 24 months. It is absolutely ludicrous to even listen to the bunkum which the jaahilah is contending. The person who denies this Qur’aanic injunction becomes murtadd. She has negated her Imaan. Such morons never are Muslims. They masquerade as Muslims while in reality they are among the munaafiqeen.
Q. Is it permissible to tie black beads around the wrists of a baby for protection?
A. It is not permissible to tie the black beads on the wrists of babies. This is a baseless, custom of superstition of the idolaters.
Q. Is it permissible for nabaaligh children to make gifts from their own money?
A. Nabaaligh (minor) children are not allowed to give even charity from their own money. The parents should not allow them to make contributions with their own money. However, the parents should give them some money to make charitable contributions so that generosity is cultivated in them.
Q. What is Islam’s view regarding favouritism by parents? What if parents shower one child with gifts and favours while depriving the other child?
A. It is not normal for parents to do so. The parents will surely have a reason for this attitude. If the one child is disobedient, rude and insolent, then the parents will be justified to act in this manner. If they have no valid Shar’i reason for their favouritism, then they are guilty of injustice. It is sinful for parents to favour one child to the exclusion of their other children for no valid reason.
Q. Who is the owner of gifts which people give to little children? Do the parents have the right to use such gifts as they please? Relatives at times give large sums of money to children of the family as presents. Is it permissible for the parents to use this money freely?
A. Gifts whether of cash or kind given to children become the property of the children to whom the items were presented. It is not permissible for parents to use such gifts for their own use or for the use of other members of the family. Such gifts being the property of the children to whom the gifts were made could be utilized for only those children (to whom the gifts were made). The maintenance of a child devolves upon the father firstly. However, if the child has wealth this may be used for the maintenance of the child. (lmdaadul Fataawa).
Q. I received many gifts in the form of clothing, etc., when my baby was born. Do these gifts belong to me or to my baby? Can I use these gifts for my next child?
A. It is customary to make these gifts to the parents. Although the items are given for the baby’s use, the gifts are made to the mother. You can therefore use the items for your next child. Allah knows best.
Q. Some people say that only the Athaan should be recited in the ear of the newborn child, not the Iqaamat. Is this correct?
A. It is Sunnat to recite both the Athaan and Iqaamat. Athaan in the right ear, and Iqaamat in the left ear.
Q. The Athaan and Iqaamat were not recited in the newborn’s ears on the first day. Should the Athaan and Iqaamat be recited if this omission came to mind on the third day?
A. Yes, both the Athaan and Iqaamat should be recited whenever it is remembered.
Q. A woman miscarried at nine weeks. She was told that since the foetus was not a living child, it will not intercede on her behalf on the Day of Qiyaamah. Is this correct?
A. Even a one day old miscarried foetus will, Insha’Allah, be a perfect child in Qiyaamah who will intercede on behalf of his/her parents. The person has misinformed you.
Q. What’s the wisdom behind the emphasis in ensuring children are kept indoors after sun set?
A. “Take care of your children at the time of Ishaa’, for verily the (evil) jinn (at that time) cause mischief and (even) snatches the child.” – Hadith According to the Hadith children, in fact even domesticated animals, should not be allowed to roam outside the home. Evil jinn (shayaateen) prowl the streets when darkness falls, and they interfere with children.
Q. Recenly I was informed that the after-birth has to be buried. Is this correct?
A. Yes, it is correct. It has to be buried.
Q. Whose privilege is it to choose a name for the child — the mother or the father?
A. The mother has the first right of choosing a name for her child.
Q. What custom is Sunnat when naming a newborn child? Must an Imaam/Sheikh be called to name the child?
A. When naming the newborn child there is no Sunnah custom of calling an Imaam. This is another bid’ah introduced by the people. The father should name the child. There is no naming ceremony. On the 7th day, everyone should start calling the child on the name selected for him/her. There is no custom to observe when naming a child.
Q. There is a woman who had a baby 18 years ago. She and her husband took care of the baby since he was born. However, the woman was unable to breast-feed the baby because of a medical condition. Around his 18th birthday, the hospital where he was born called and said that they had made a horrible mistake, and the boy was not their son. At the time of birth, the name cards of the babies were switched. Is this child still regarded as their son. Is this boy the mahram of the woman who had reared him for 18 years?
A. The information furnished by the kaafir hospital 18 years after the event is unreliable and does not constitute acceptable and binding evidence in terms of the Shariah. On the basis of the hospital’s call, the paternity of the child will not be negated. They are the parents of the boy. Nothing has changed on the basis of the hospital’s call. An issue of this nature requires Shar’i Shahaadat – such testimony which is acceptable in the Shariah.
Q. A Muslim woman before giving birth to her child became a murtad. What is the status of the child?
A. The child will be a Muslim. The mother loses all rights to the child because of becoming murtad.
Q. How is the birth of a new-born child to be celebrated on the 7th day?
A. There is no Sunnah custom of celebrating the birth of a child. Such customs are un-Islamic. On the seventh day, it is Sunnah to have the Aqeeqah done. The Aqeeqah is only the slaughtering of two sheep/goats for a boy, or one sheep/goat and distributing the meat – one part for the poor, one part for relatives and friends and one part for oneself. Whilst this form of distribution is Sunnah, it is permissible to distribute the meat in any way and amount as one wishes. Whilst giving gifts is permissible, it is not an Islamic practice to make gifts on the seventh day which people have baselessly made a day of birth celebration. If you wish to give a gift, do so on any other day.